What is a Wonder Weaver?
I love rhymes and poetry. I wanted something that rhymed on my website and so I considered many words that rhymed with Seeker and Feeler. Weaver came up as I searched for rhyming words. Weaving is an art, it goes back and it reminds me of ancestral energy as well as the thought of my great grandmother and my grandmother making my clothes, and making beautiful blankets and tapestries for others. It makes me happy to think of the word Weaver. But weaver of what? Then the word Wonder came up for me.
To me, a Wonder Weaver is an acknowledgment that we are all weaving our stories as we go. It reminds me of narrative therapy: the way we create stories, continuously writing and rewriting our narratives. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the stories we tell ourselves are inherited, passed down through generations, shaped by cultural expectations, legacies, and burdens. Some of these stories serve us; others do not in certain moments in our lives.
Sometimes consciousness is important when we realize that we do not like what we are weaving. The more awareness we have of our bodies, our emotions, our thoughts, and our surroundings, the more conscious this weaving becomes. With that awareness, we can take leadership in shaping the story we want to tell.
I picture weaving like crafting a blanket not knowing exactly how to do it on our own. We learn how to weave from those who guide us and at times we may surprise ourselves that we can intutively do it. Each thread can be intentional, at times more than other times. Some parts may be neat, and some may be messy. There is value in being present, in noticing not just our own weaving but also the stories unfolding around us. When we build trust, in ourselves and with others, through moving forward, learning from others and ourselves, and when we like what we are doing and feel confident that we have a good sense of direction, we don’t have to focus on the weaving all the time. We can rest. Sometimes it feels more automatic. We can enjoy the world around us. And then we can teach others. What is conscious doesn’t always have to be actively on our minds and it can become part of our nature, part of something that blends in with us.
And then there is wonder.
Wonder is being in awe of your story— your blanket, your pattern, your chaos, whatever it may be. It is yours. Unique to you. It may share similarities with others, but no one else can weave it quite like you.
I am left in awe that this is my story. Whether I like it or not, this is what is happening. And we can make choices as we become aware of what is happening. Some of those choices are to change course, to try something different, or to follow the path that we are used to. And sometimes, we ask for help in the weaving. We may pass the thread to another when we are tired, but we remain aware that this is ours. Our responsibility. Our creation.
When we can recognize that we get to do this, that in a way it is a privilege—to reflect, to choose, to rewrite our stories, we may discover deep gratitude and wonder. It may seem like a given, and although we all deserve this right to reflect and choose, it isn’t always true for others where thinking, feeling, and choosing is life threatening. Where weaving your own story isn’t an option. Personally, I am in deep gratitude to get to slow down and get to process.
How incredible is it that we can? That we have the space, the safety, the ability to do this for ourselves? Can we sit with that wonder for a moment?
We can share our story with awe and look at others with awe. When we step back and look at our lives, how can there not be wonder?
And if we do not feel that wonder or joy, if we do not like what we see, we can pause. Reflect. Seek support. Try something different. Ask ourselves: Is this a pattern I have internalized? Is this truly mine? What would I want for myself?
We can shift, make adjustments, and follow a path that feels more us. We can look back at our story, our patterns, and learn from it, appreciate it, and move forward in the same way or different ways. That, too, is a wonder—that with our community, our supports, and our own hands, we can weave in this present moment, right now.
-Imuri
